So of course, I’ve been meaning to write this down all day but as I’ve said before, I become particularly lazy on Fridays. It’s the one day in the week when I can stay in bed and do nothing. I aint wasting it!
Anyway, I’ve been thinking a lot about relationships and more importantly, friendships. I’ve had a lot of friends in my not so long life and I’ve learnt something from every friendship. For instance, I think it is completely possible for a guy and girl to be friends with NO romantic entanglements whatsoever.
But that’s not the point I was trying to make. So the other day I was hanging out with 2 of my friends from my post graduate class and we were talking about how it’s so weird that we’ve all become so close despite not having known each for that long. Like we haven’t even known each other for a year and yet, we’re the best support system for each other, be it in academics or our personal lives or any existential crisis any of us may be having.
And we know for a fact, that IF (I don’t think it’ll happen but you never know) we ever lose touch after our post-grad is done, if one day 5 years down the line if any of us calls the other randomly, the friendship will pick up right where we left off. Which is how it should be.
And then I have also had friends who I have known all my life but don’t speak to for whatever petty reason they have.
The two extremes in my life made me wonder: does a friendship have a shelf life? I personally don’t believe it should or that it does for that matter. But I guess, you do grow out of some people as you go on with life. But that is no excuse for losing friendships.
And believe me, I know a thing or two about losing friends. It happens even though you don’t want it to. And you NEVER see it coming. Trust me on that too!
So what do you think? Does a friendship have a life expectancy? Should it? Have you ever faced a situation like mine where you don’t speak to someone who used to be your best friend once upon a time?
Let me know in the comments so I don’t feel like a complete fail.
Until next time,
Live long and prosper.
May the Force be with you!