I don’t mean to sound ominous with the title, but it is a very important question. Here’s the context.
We all have people and relationships in our lives that we are not… happy with. They seem like toxic relationships because it just seems like they’re sucking the life out of us. Do you ever feel like you’re in a situation with someone where you’re doing all the giving and none of the receiving? Yeah, it’s something like that.
The thing is, as evolved humans who are quite emotionally intelligent, we know when we’re in a situation like that. We see it, we recognise it, we try to deny it for the longest time until we can’t. Even then we try and find a reason to justify the other persons’ action. But here’s the thing…. how many of us actually know when its time to call it quits and let go of that last shred of hope?
Do we know when its time to stop and say ENOUGH? Do we know when is the right time to put our foot down?
The answer is no. I’ll tell you why.
As people, we don’t like fighting with someone who is a friend or a loved one. It makes us uncomfortable and squeamish… literally. So we keep putting things off. We put up with the kind of behaviour that no one should have to deal with… we do it, because we don’t want a fight. It is that simple.
Having said that, I’m one of those few people who has a self-destructive streak and it hasn’t worked out great for me. But I can say this with experience, the second you realise that a friend or a loved one is not treating you with respect, you need to sort it out.
Either have a conversation with them about it, and if that doesn’t work, take a call. Sort out your priorities in life and decide. Do you want to call it quits?
I just want to end with this: you need to love and respect yourself. Never do anything that causes you to lose any amount of respect you have for yourself.
Until next time.